Dating two women at the same time
It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say It Most people you meet are prepared for you to do something shitty to them. But there's a big difference between a bad thing done poorly and a bad thing done well.
L, a friend I can only describe as having advanced degrees in the science of online dating, says, "My personal experience is that people don't worry about what is happening as much as they do how it is happening.
The next day, I found out that Nicole thought I was cute, and I was faced with a quandary...because Nicole was cute too.
To make matters worse, they were complete opposites: Pam was younger, just starting off in the work force, and Nicole was a bit older and she was a lawyer.
Surely those encounters can be fully designated to the realm of physical lust.
My friend P (and no, her real name is not just a letter but if you're friends with P, then you're friends with me) put it best.
"Assume people are sleeping with other people unless they ask or say otherwise," she says. You're not hanging all your hopes on this coffee right now either? Keep Your Dates on a Need-to-Know Basis As P puts it, "Don't feel guilty about seeing more than one person, because you can make it weird, and don't overshare about more than one person." If they ask you what you're doing on Saturday, tell them you are "busy." If they ask what you're doing, tell them you're "meeting up with a friend." If they ask which friend, defer, or lie.
This might seem like a sort of defense mechanism against getting too involved, but I like to think of it more as a liberation tool—you assume that they're sleeping with other people, they assume that you're doing the same, and all of a sudden the pressure is off this date. And don't, under any circumstances, bring it up yourself. When you're on a date with someone, they deserve your undivided attention.
Maybe, more importantly, they deserve to like they have your undivided attention.
by Gipper Pursue and date more than one woman at a time. I can't count the times I've read a post by some guy who pines away for the "perfect" girl only to find out she's got a boyfriend, or isn't interested. You cannot, I repeat, cannot fall in love with one woman after going out with her once and twice. You can't be lighthearted and fun, which really hurts you in the long run. You can gauge which girl is really more fun to be around. This should be enough reason to try multiple chicks.